How to Decide If a Move Is Really the Answer with Mariette Frey

<p>Mariette Frey has moved 20 times in 24 years. She built a framework out of it, not because moving got easier, but because she kept relearning the same lessons. This conversation is about the difference between a move that solves something and a move that just relocates the problem.</p><p></p><p>Mariette walks through her FRED framework (finances, robustness, ecosystem, dreams) and the question she asks every client before anything else: is this a relief move, or is this the only way to get somewhere you actually want to be. She talks about the client who did a "city bake-off," spending a month living in the city he thought he wanted to move to, only to come back realizing he missed his grocery store more than he wanted a new life. We get into the 6 month funk that hits after almost every relocation, the emotional and financial toll of a cross country move, and the difference between choosing a new life and running from an old one.</p><p></p><p>On A Category of One, I sat down with Mariette to talk about what it actually takes to know if you're ready for a big change, and what it costs when you move before you're ready.</p><p></p><p>In this episode:</p><ul><li>The FRED framework and how to know if a move will actually solve anything</li><li>Why "relief moves" so often become the wrong decision</li><li>The 6 month funk that follows almost every relocation</li><li>How to build community and support before you arrive somewhere new</li><li>What it means to reparent the parts of you that want to stay</li></ul><p></p><p>Connect with Mariette Frey:</p><p>Website: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://movingforsmarties.com/" target="_blank">https://movingforsmarties.com/</a></p><p>IG: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.instagram.com/mariettesonthemove" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/mariettesonthemove</a></p><p>LI: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariettefrey/" target="_blank">https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariettefrey/</a></p><p>YT: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.youtube.com/" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/</a> ⁨@Movingforsmarties⁩  </p><p>Podcast: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://open.spotify.com/show/2umVkjMDtrA6xfxmYn3oPD?si=84d5d2edad374b68" target="_blank">https://open.spotify.com/show/2umVkjMDtrA6xfxmYn3oPD?si=84d5d2edad374b68</a></p><p></p><p>Connect with Leslie Silverman:</p><p>IG: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.instagram.com/lesliesilverman/" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/lesliesilverman/</a></p><p>LI: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/leslie-silverman-hive180/" target="_blank">https://www.linkedin.com/in/leslie-silverman-hive180/</a></p><p>FB:  <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.facebook.com/leslie.a.silverman" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/leslie.a.silverman</a></p><p>YT: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.youtube.com/@lesliesilvermanofficial" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/@lesliesilvermanofficial</a></p><p>Website:<b> </b><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://lesliesilverman.com" target="_blank"><b>https://lesliesilverman.com</b></a></p><p></p><p>Chapters:</p><p>01:48 The Fred Framework </p><p>04:05 The evolution of Mariette's moving journey</p><p>05:39 The Fred framework for smart moves</p><p>08:15 Common moving scams and how to avoid them</p><p>11:55 The emotional impact of moving and the six-month funk</p><p>15:10 Using parts work to understand your moving motivations</p><p>18:35 The importance of intentional decision-making</p><p>22:46 Building community before moving</p><p>27:28 The role of self-coaching and reflection</p><p>32:01 Practical experiments to test readiness</p><p></p>