87. Helpful Support (Independence) vs Harmful Support (Dependence). Mentioning Jon Haidt, Kim Scott,

Helpful Support = 1. Increased Trajectory + 2. Increase Resilience

Harmful Support = 1. No Improvement In Trajectory + 2. Lowered Resilience

Support in Different Contexts

- Workplace: Managers should focus on developing employees' skills and independence

- Parenting: The goal is to raise independent adults, not perpetually dependent children

- Friendships: There's a delicate balance between being supportive and becoming a "coach"

- Addiction and mental health: Support should aim for long-term recovery and resilience, not enabling destructive behaviors

Jon Haidt's Three Great Untruths:

- "What doesn't kill you makes you weaker" => What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

- "always trust your feelings" => Feelings should be examined, sometimes immediate responses are counter productive and one should 'think slow, not think fast'.

- "life is a battle between good people and evil people" => The world is not zero sum, most things are 'win-win'.

Defining Effective Support