Menopause, Desire, and Reclaiming Your Sex Life With Karen Bigman

Step into a candid, juicy, and deeply liberating conversation with Karen Bigman, midlife sex and relationship expert, certified sex educator, and menopause coach, on this episode of Intimate Conversations: Dark Night to Divine Light. Karen is the host of Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50, a shame free space for honest conversations about sex, desire, dating, relationships, menopause, and intimacy after 50.

Karen shares the unexpected journey that brought her into this work, beginning with a book club moment when a grown woman could not say the word "blowjob." Combined with reconnecting with an old flame, discovering the realities of menopause, and a life changing visit to a sexual medicine practice, that moment sparked a calling she never saw coming.

We explore the changes that happen in midlife bodies and relationships, including menopause, perimenopause, hormone therapy, and shifting libido for both women and men. Karen offers a shame free approach centered on communication, body awareness, pleasure over performance, and emotional connection, reminding us that great sex is a full body, full heart experience.

The conversation also dives into foreplay as an all day practice, what Karen calls "sex snacks," and the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire. Allana vulnerably shares her own experience of introducing her Yoni to a partner for the first time, opening a deeper conversation about asking to be honored rather than waiting for someone else to know what we need.

We also talk about:

● Why your sex span should equal your lifespan

● How men can better support partners through menopause

● Spontaneous versus responsive desire

● Why women have affairs to leave and men have affairs to stay

● Sex snacks and keeping intimacy alive outside the bedroom

● Porn, the death grip, and difficulty reaching orgasm

● Religious shame, guilt, and learning to let go in the body