Attention Or Intention

Send us Fan Mail A text that hits at 10 p.m. can feel like connection, but is it care or convenience? We’re Heather and Lacey, and we’re getting painfully honest about attention versus intention in dating: the difference between easy, frequent, low-effort validation and the consistent, planned follow-through that actually builds a relationship. Along the way, we share the moments that fooled us, like the “anniversary trip” that wasn’t planned for the relationship and the no-card Instacart flo...