Lost Yourself in Motherhood? How to Reclaim Who You Are Beyond Being Mum

Is it possible to absolutely love being a mum... and still feel like something is missing?

For so many women, motherhood brings immense joy—but it can also bring an unexpected sense of loss. The loss of confidence, identity, ambition or simply remembering who you were before everyone needed a piece of you. In this deeply honest conversation, I sit down with author, speaker and coach Benita Bensch to talk about the parts of motherhood we don't often say out loud.

Benita shares her journey through raising four boys on the land, experiencing two significant periods of burnout she describes as "the black hole," and the long road back to reconnecting with herself. Together, we explore why so many mothers feel invisible, how our inner stories can keep us stuck, and why asking for what you need isn't selfish—it's essential. If you've ever wondered, "Who am I outside of being Mum?" this episode is for you.

In this episode we discuss:

Why it's possible to love motherhood and still crave more for yourself

Feeling invisible after becoming a mum

The identity shift that comes with motherhood

Benita's experience of burnout, anxiety and finding herself again

Why reconnecting with your creativity matters

Letting go of guilt around wanting something for yourself

The power of boundaries, self-awareness and asking for help

Practical ways to reconnect with yourself when life feels overwhelming