124: You Haven't Messed Up Your Life

<p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent;">For years, Paul Drayton believed his struggles with addiction, relationships, and identity were simply who he was. It wasn't until a life-changing ADHD diagnosis at age 50, the end of his marriage, and the work of looking honestly at his past that he began to understand the deeper story behind his choices and find his way back to himself.</span></p><p><br></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent;">In this heartfelt episode, I talk with the British actor, writer, and author of </span><em style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent;">Ride or Die Trying</em><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent;"> about addiction, recovery, people-pleasing, late-diagnosed ADHD, and the quiet courage it takes to rebuild your life after losing yourself. Paul shares how years of self-medicating, public scrutiny, and searching for answers eventually led him to a place of self-understanding and peace.</span></p><p><br></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent;">Get a copy of Paul’s debut Memoir, Ride or Die Trying: </span><a href="https://uk.bookshop.org/p/books/ride-or-die-trying-a-life-before-during-and-after-the-laughter-paul-drayton/470cc7e00d605b01" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(17, 85, 204); background-color: transparent;">https://uk.bookshop.org/p/books/ride-or-die-trying-a-life-before-during-and-after-the-laughter-paul-drayton/470cc7e00d605b01</a></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent;">Learn more about Paul: </span><a href="https://pauldrayton.co.uk/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(17, 85, 204); background-color: transparent;">https://pauldrayton.co.uk/</a><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent;">&nbsp;</span></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent;">Follow Paul on Instagram: </span><a href="https://www.instagram.com/pauldrayton1/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(17, 85, 204); background-color: transparent;">https://www.instagram.com/pauldrayton1/</a><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent;">&nbsp;</span></p><p><br></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent;">What You'll Learn</span></p><ul><li><span style="background-color: transparent;">Why understanding yourself is often the foundation of self-forgiveness</span></li><li><span style="background-color: transparent;">The connection between people-pleasing, losing your identity, and unhealthy relationships</span></li><li><span style="background-color: transparent;">What recovery looks like beyond simply getting sober</span></li><li><span style="background-color: transparent;">How accountability and self-compassion can exist at the same time</span></li><li><span style="background-color: transparent;">Why rebuilding your life starts with coming home to yourself instead of trying to become someone else</span></li><li><span style="background-color: transparent;">How resilience is often discovered only after you've lived through your hardest seasons</span></li><li><span style="background-color: transparent;">Why it's never too late to rediscover who you are and create a different future</span></li></ul><p></p><p><br></p><p><strong style="background-color: transparent; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Resources:</strong></p><p><span style="background-color: transparent; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: </span><a href="https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/</a></p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: transparent; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and h