I Spent 12 Years Teaching Manners In China... “Be Yourself” Is The Worst Advice

<p>Sara Jane Ho is a Harvard Business School graduate, Netflix star, and the founder of Institute Sarita — China&#39;s first high-end finishing school — who spent 12 years teaching social intelligence to some of the most powerful people in Asia before pivoting to LA to launch a TCM-based wellness brand and host the viral podcast Hot Water. She is the author of the bestselling etiquette book Mind Your Manners and has been named Forbes&#39; Women to Watch in Asia and one of BBC&#39;s 100 Women.In this episode, we discuss:0:00 Introduction2:36 Why Neglecting Social Fluency Is Literally Shortening Your Lifespan3:50 What Social Fluency Actually Means — and Why It Has Nothing to Do With Being Polite5:23 How to Develop Heightened Self-Awareness If Nobody Ever Taught You How10:32 How Sara Jane Ho Went From Harvard to Beijing With Broken Mandarin and Built China&#39;s First Finishing School15:29 What High-Status People Do Differently Once They&#39;re Inside the Room19:42 Reading the Air: How to Scan a Room&#39;s Energy in the First 30 Seconds23:30) How to Use Your Central Nervous System to Read People More Accurately Than Your Brain28:20 Carl Jung Said You Only Really Start Living at 40 — Here&#39;s What That Means30:34 Miss Manners With a Touch of Machiavelli: How to Say Anything With a Smile and Get Away With It41:36 The Chinese Phone Call Rule That Changes How People Perceive Your Respect44:15 Why Xi Jinping Always Lowers His Glass When He Toasts — The Hidden Language of Chinese Power50:58 The Saving Face Dynamic That Makes American Businessmen Leave China Thinking They Got the Deal53:33 The Highest ROI Things You Can Do Right Now to Improve Your Social Fluency57:24 Tiger Mothers, Conditional Love, and Why Not Loving Yourself Attracts the Wrong Partners1:10:30 Why Hot Water Is the Foundation of TCM Longevity — and What It Actually Does to Your BodyLearn more about Sara Jane Ho here:Website: https://www.sarajaneho.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarajaneho/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@BySaraJaneHoWatch the full episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/thk4T9ukUos📸 Connect on IG: https://instagram.com/growthminds.podcast</p>