Losing Your Identity as a Mom (and Finding Yourself Again) with Tara Clark

I did a cute little shoot this week. Got my glam done, washed my hair for the first time in days, felt like I had my life together for about five minutes. And then I sat down with Tara Clark and immediately felt like the biggest hot mess in the room. In the best way.

You know Tara as Modern Mom Probs — the Instagram, the podcast, the book, all of it. She's been doing the good, the bad, the ugly, the real about motherhood since before it was a whole genre, and I've been dying to get her on since I was on her podcast. This time we go deep: identity, comparison, guilt, and what it actually looks like to build a life — and a business — out of nothing.

In this episode we get real about:

Why I still introduce myself as "Carmella from WWE" instead of "mom" — and Tara's take on why we all do this

How Tara went from working social media at Nickelodeon to building Modern Mom Probs from her living room

The #1 modern mom problem Tara hears from every single guest on her podcast (it's not what you'd think... okay, it's exactly what you'd think)

Curating your Instagram feed the same way you curate your house, and giving yourself permission to just unfollow

The guilt of letting your mom take the kids for a night so you can sleep (and why you should let her)

What actually fills your cup right now — for both of us, it's smaller than you'd think

Tara's advice for any woman starting completely from scratch: build the village yourself

Momma, if you've ever felt like you lost yourself somewhere between the baby monitor and the group chat, this one's for you. Thank god it's not just us.

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