#43: Escaping the "not enough" trap with Jack Chivers

<p>Most of us don’t realise how much of our life is built around one quiet belief:</p><p>“<strong>I’m not enough</strong>.”</p><p>In this conversation with Jack Chivers, we unpack the performer pattern - the part of us that learned to earn love, approval and belonging through being impressive, capable or strong.</p><p>For a while, that strategy works.</p><p>It builds careers, it builds reputations and it even builds identity.</p><p>But over time it can also lead to burnout, resentment and relationships built on unsustainable foundations.</p><p>We explore:</p><ul><li><p>Why performing can feel safer than being</p></li><li><p>How burnout can be a signal not a weakness</p></li><li><p>The link between anger in the body and unspoken pressure</p></li><li><p>The core belief sitting underneath many of our patterns</p></li><li><p>And what changes when we replace self-attack with “that makes sense”</p></li></ul><p>This isn’t about becoming a better version of yourself. It’s about noticing the ways you learned to survive… and gently stepping out of the trap of proving your worth.</p><p>If you’ve ever felt like your value depends on how well you perform, this one’s for you.</p><p>Jack's <a href="https://jackchiverstherapy.com.au/" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">website</a> and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/jack.chivers.therapy/" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">instagram</a></p><p>Rick <a href="https://www.rickwatson.com.au/" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">website</a> and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/rickwatson_/" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">instagram</a></p><p></p>