Heart Note #7: Visiting the in-laws and what to watch for

<p><strong>Holidays with the in-laws are the narrative of many TV comedies for a reason. </strong></p><p>We treat the family visit as something to survive and as a chance to assess who we've ended up with. But a family holiday is a mirror, and it gets held up to both of you.</p><p>This week, I explore what a summer trip to the in-laws really reveals: <strong>why your partner regresses at their mother's kitchen table</strong> (and why it's loyalty, not weakness), what family researchers call <em>differentiation</em>, and the childhood role that's waiting for each of us, folded by the door like an old cot.</p><p>The invitation is to watch yourself first, your body, your role, and the moment you choose tenderness over a scorecard.</p><p><br /></p><p>🤎 Heard something that landed? </p><p>DM me on Instagram @adele_thecoach </p>