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#22: MBT Group Therapy > Between Trust and Protection
<p>🎙️ Special Episode – “Between Trust and Protection”</p><p><br /></p><p>Welcome to this special episode of the MBT podcast.</p><p>In this group session, an intense conversation unfolds about trust, dependency, and the way old patterns become activated when someone feels unseen or not taken seriously.</p><p><br /></p><p>What makes this session powerful is how clearly it shows that anger, control, and distance are often not the core issue — but protection against vulnerability..</p><p><br /></p><p>⸻</p><p><br /></p><p>🧠 What this episode explores</p><p><br /></p><p>Dependency and control</p><p><br /></p><p>For some group members, depending on others immediately creates tension.</p><p>As soon as someone else has influence over work, recovery, or personal choices, the urge arises to regain control — or to push people away.</p><p><br /></p><p>⸻</p><p><br /></p><p>The hedgehog as protection</p><p><br /></p><p>A powerful image in this session is that of the hedgehog.</p><p><br /></p><p>Not attacking to hurt others,</p><p>but using spikes to protect yourself.</p><p><br /></p><p>Because connection feels unsafe.</p><p>Because criticism hurts.</p><p>Because not being seen cuts deep.</p><p><br /></p><p>⸻</p><p><br /></p><p>Feeling misunderstood</p><p><br /></p><p>Several group members recognize the same painful feeling:</p><p><br /></p><p>I am not truly heard</p><p>I am not understood</p><p><br /></p><p>And when someone finally becomes vulnerable, a response from another person can feel rejecting — even when that was never the intention.</p><p><br /></p><p>⸻</p><p><br /></p><p>Old patterns and new responses</p><p><br /></p><p>The group explores how old survival patterns automatically return under stress:</p><p>people-pleasing, fighting, shutting down, or trying to stay in control.</p><p><br /></p><p>But at the same time, something new begins to emerge:</p><p>slowing down, asking questions, and staying curious about the intentions of others.</p><p><br /></p><p>⸻</p><p><br /></p><p>🌟 The common thread</p><p><br /></p><p>The central theme of this episode is the tension between protecting yourself and still wanting connection.</p><p><br /></p><p>Mentalizing helps people pause instead of reacting automatically from old survival patterns — and to reflect on what is really happening within themselves and others.</p><p><br /></p><p>⸻</p><p><br /></p><p>💬 Closing</p><p><br /></p><p>This episode shows how complex group sessions can become when trust, dependency, and vulnerability come together.</p><p><br /></p><p>And sometimes, change does not begin with finding the right answer,</p><p>but with asking yourself:</p><p><br /></p><p>“What am I actually trying to protect myself from?”</p>