269. "I want to retire, but my wife is too scared"

Ramit Sethi of I Will Teach You To Be Rich talks to Meg and Jo, a married couple in their 60s with more than $6 million in net worth, strong incomes, and a retirement problem that is not really about money.

Meg is ready to stop working. Jo wants to retire too, but feels terrified of making the wrong decision and carrying the responsibility for their investments alone. Despite having millions, speaking with financial advisors, and living well below their means, they remain stuck between fear, resentment, and “vibes.”

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In this episode we uncover:

• Why Meg feels entitled to retire and Jo feels alone carrying the financial responsibility

• How Jo became the financial gatekeeper in their relationship

• Why Meg has avoided learning the details of their investments

• How different childhood experiences with money shaped their fears

• Why Jo’s experience during the 2008 financial crash still affects her decisions today

• How emotional labor around money can quietly create resentment in a marriage

• Why their disagreement about renovating their home is really about control and security