#24: How do I build up my confidence? - with Parveen Downer (Career Coach, PM instructor, Speaker, Stand-up Comedian)

<p>In this episode, Francesca Cortesi and Parveen Downer explore the concept of confidence, emphasizing that it is a skill that can be developed rather than an innate trait. </p><p><br></p><p>They discuss the importance of taking action to build confidence, the role of mindset in overcoming inner criticism, and practical strategies such as rejection therapy and creating a confidence playlist. The conversation highlights the significance of consistency and preparation in cultivating a confident mindset, encouraging listeners to take small steps towards building their confidence.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>CHAPTERS</strong></p><p><br></p><p><strong>00:46</strong> Understanding Confidence: A Skill, Not a Trait</p><p><strong>03:43 </strong>The Confidence Loop: Action, Competence, and Growth </p><p><strong>06:41 </strong>Overcoming Inner Criticism: Strategies for Speaking Up</p><p><strong>09:44 </strong>The Role of Mindset and Preparation in Confidence </p><p><strong>12:53</strong> Building Confidence Through Small Steps</p><p><strong>15:44 </strong>Rejection Therapy: Embracing No for Growth </p><p><strong>18:35 </strong>Practical Tips for Cultivating Confidence</p><p><strong>21:34</strong> Consistency is Key: The Path to Lasting Confidence</p><p><strong>24:47</strong> Final Thoughts: Small Actions Lead to Big Changes</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p><strong>OUR GUEST</strong></p><p><a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/parveendowner/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">Parveen Downer,</a> Career Coach, PM instructor, Speaker, Stand-up Comedian</p><p><br></p><p>Parveen Downer is a product manager turned confidence coach with a distinctly portfolio-shaped career. After building her reputation in tech — across operations, regulated industries, and highly technical product roles — she now coaches ambitious professionals to speak up, get noticed, and lead with impact. She teaches product management, designs a circular fashion line celebrating cultural heritage, and occasionally tests her own confidence on stage as a stand-up comedian. Blending evidence-based coaching with real-world product experience (and a healthy dose of humour), Parveen helps quietly brilliant people show the world what they’re capable of.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>SHOWNOTES</strong></p><ol><li><p>Mark Manson on confidence: https://markmanson.net/how-to-be-confident</p></li><li><p>The Quietly Confident club:<a href="https://www.consultwithparveen.com/the-quietly-confident-club/"><strong> https://www.consultwithparveen.com/the-quietly-confident-club/</strong></a></p></li><li><p>Rejection therapy: <a href="https://www.rejectiontherapy.com/100-days-of-rejection-therapy"><u>https://www.rejectiontherapy.com/100-days-of-rejection-therapy</u></a></p></li><li><p>Parveen’s confidence playlist: <a href="https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6OtMyKLk7vj2izFiWpZM9M?si=12b56610943448d5"><u>https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6OtMyKLk7vj2izFiWpZM9M?si=12b56610943448d5</u></a></p></li></ol><p><br></p><p><strong>COOK WHILE LISTENING</strong></p><p>Parvee’s go-to pancakes, worth watching the entire video to get all the best tips:</p><p><br></p><p><a href="https://www.epicurious.com/video/watch/epicurious-101-the-best-way-to-make-perfect-pancakes"><u>https://www.epicurious.com/video/watch/epicurious-101-the-best-way-to-make-perfect-pancakes</u></a></p><p><br></p>