If You Had a Big Sister, She Would Tell You This ...

<p>This week is a big moment on the podcast. Reclaiming Bossy is turning <strong>three years old</strong>, and I’m turning <strong>23</strong>.</p><p><br></p><p>To celebrate both birthdays, I wanted to sit down and share the <strong>22 biggest lessons I learned at 22</strong>. I don’t have a big sister, so in many ways I’ve had to learn a lot of these lessons the hard way. </p><p><br></p><p>Through building a business, going to therapy, travelling, making mistakes, creating nearly 100 podcast episodes, and having hundreds of conversations with incredible guests, these are the ideas that have shaped who I am becoming.</p><p><br></p><p>If you’ve listened to even one episode over the past three years, thank you.  Whether you’ve been here since episode one or you only found Reclaiming Bossy last week, thank you for letting me be a small part of your journey. Here’s to the next chapter.</p><p><br></p><p>Share this with someone who needs big sister advice today :)</p><p><br></p><p><strong>TIMESTAMPS</strong></p><p>00:00 Intro: 22 things I learned at 22 and celebrating three years</p><p>01:27 Authenticity: Finding yourself and repelling the wrong people</p><p>04:13 Relationships: Trusting the right people to stay and letting the wrong ones go</p><p>08:20 Failure as data: Learning from your flop moments</p><p>09:35 Making space: Why everything in life requires time and capacity</p><p>13:06 Don&#39;t quit, rest: Understanding the seven types of rest</p><p>14:17 Healing is a journey: Going back to therapy and dropping the shame</p><p>17:29 The arrival fallacy: Giving yourself permission to exist between achievements</p><p>19:53 The fear of success: How to regulate yourself when big wins happen</p><p>22:04 Hard work vs. alignment: Why struggle isn&#39;t the most important ingredient</p><p>24:44 Visibility is currency: Creating inbound luck and opportunities</p><p>26:47 Jealousy as data: Breaking the scarcity mindset and the &quot;it girl&quot; narrative</p><p>28:18 The timeline curse: Falling in love with the dream, not the deadline</p><p>31:00 Self-validation: Giving yourself permission and breaking the validation loop</p><p>32:18 Confidence is built on action: Why evidence matters more than applause</p><p>33:30 The 70 percent rule: Beating perfectionism and acting before you overthink</p><p>35:17 You only need one yes: Depersonalizing rejection and building resilience</p><p>39:41 Embarrassment is a choice: Being unapologetically yourself and backing your vision</p><p>40:48 You can always start again: Reshuffling the deck to create a better life</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p><strong>THINGS MENTIONED</strong></p><p>Bossy and Brown magazine preorder</p><p><a href="https://www.bossyandbrown.com/">https://www.bossyandbrown.com</a></p><p><br></p><p>Learn more about Bossy and Brown</p><p><a href="https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/indian-bossy-brown-girl-summer-b3015509.html">https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/indian-bossy-brown-girl-summer-b3015509.html</a></p><p><br></p><p>My Substack article about endings</p><p><a href="https://maahikasingh.substack.com/p/happy-endings-are-overrated-heres?r=60u9vn&utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=post%20viewer">https://maahikasingh.substack.com/p/happy-endings-are-overrated-heres?r=60u9vn&amp;utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&amp;utm_medium=post%20viewer</a></p><p><br></p><p><em>Fail Smarter</em></p><p><a href="https://www.hachette.co.uk/titles/dougal-shaw/fail-smarter/9781805228240/">https://www.hachette.co.uk/titles/dougal-shaw/fail-smarter/9781805228240/</a></p><p><br></p><p>My Substack article about therapy</p><p><a href="https://theopenletters.substack.com/p/i-failed-my-healing-journey?r=60u9vn&utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=post%20viewer">https://theopenletters.substack.com/p/i-failed-my-healing-journey?r=60u9vn&amp;utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&amp;utm_medium=post%20viewer</a></p><p><br></p><p>Amsterdam season of Reclaiming Bossy</p><p><a href="https://www.youtube