Why Couples Stop Having Sex (And How to Fix It) with George Faller

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Why do couples so often fall into standoffs where one partner needs emotional closeness to feel physical desire, while the other needs physical touch to feel emotionally open?

In this episode, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) trainer and author George Faller joins us to unpack how stress, polyvagal state shifts, and distinct attachment cycles govern relational dynamics. By learning to slow down protective reactions, partners can reframe relational friction into a doorway for true emotional and physical intimacy.

Main Talking Points:

Navigating High-Stress Trauma

Polyvagal Brain States

Intersecting Attachment Cycles

Decoupling Relational Brakes

The Crisscross Pattern

Externalizing Negative Cycles

Intimacy is not about eliminating relational friction, but about creating enough safety to reveal the deeper longings hidden beneath protective defenses. When partners slow down and face these cycles together, the body and heart naturally return to connection.