Why We Stay in Bad Relationships, Solved

Why do smart, emotionally aware people stay in relationships that are clearly destroying them? Drew and I dug into the Johnny Depp and Amber Heard marriage, to walk through the seven psychological mechanisms that quietly lock people inside bad relationships and make leaving feel impossible.

If you have ever watched someone you love stay in a relationship that is destroying them, or if you have been that person yourself, this episode will shine a lot of light on what is really going on under the hood.

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CHAPTERS

Chapters

00:00:00 Introduction: When Smart People Stay Stuck in Bad Relationships

00:05:05 Meet Johnny Depp: From Kentucky to Captain Jack Sparrow

00:12:44 Meet Amber Heard: Growing Up in Texas and Breaking Into Hollywood

00:14:40 Mechanism #1: Normalization - The Water You Swim In

00:25:11 Mechanism #2: The Identity Trap - Filling the Void

00:40:07 Mechanism #3: The Slot Machine Effect - Addicted to Volatility

00:47:08 The Escalating Violence: From Breaking Things to Breaking Trust