Rethinking Lust & Attraction

In this episode, we speak on one of the most controversial conversations in marriage: lust, attraction, and what it actually means to be "wired" a certain way. Brandon and Caitlyn dismantle the cultural and religious narratives telling men they are helplessly attracted to women who aren't their wives — and offer a completely different framework: attraction is connection. From the reticular activating system to social media's role in training the brain, to Caitlyn's unforgettable dinner-table role-play of the "count to three" rule, this episode is equal parts raw, funny, and deeply liberating. Brandon shares his own 30-day rewiring experience and what changed when he chose radical honesty over a lifetime of trained sexual brokenness. If you've been told that lust is your God-given burden to manage, this episode will challenge everything you thought you knew.

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