Sex for Normal People with Ita O'Brien

Sex is sometimes a taboo topic. Not today! Intimacy expert Ita O’Brien tells us all about the new normal in the bedroom, and how she’s introduced it to Hollywood.

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In 2017, Ita O’Brien changed how Hollywood approached sex scenes when she pioneered intimacy co-ordination on the hit Netflix show, Sex Education, by introducing the framework, “Intimacy On Set Guidelines”. She went on to on productions for Netflix, BBC, HBO, Hulu, Amazon, including Sex Education and Normal People, founding her own company Intimacy on Set.

And now she’s here.

Ita chats with the guys about what sex scenes were like before Intimacy Co-ordination, and all the lies movies taught us about sex. She explains the mysterious orgasm gap, why consent is the foundation of all intimacy, and maybe most importantly of all… the male and female anatomy of arousal! That bit’s at the 16min mark if you’re really in a hurry. 😉

00:00 – Meet Ita O'Brien, the World's First Intimacy Coordinator

01:32 – Inside Her Work on Normal People, I May Destroy You & Sex Education

04:17 – What Intimacy Actually Means (It's Not Just Sex)

07:34 – The Untold Story of the First-Ever Intimacy Coordinator Job

09:35 – What Sex Scenes Were Like Before Consent Guidelines Existed

12:27 – Why On-Screen Intimacy Shapes How We See Ourselves

14:33 – The Hidden Lie Movies Taught Us About Sex