The Parenting Wisdom

← The Parenting Wisdom23 apr Β· 11 min

When to Validate Your Kids Feelings (And When Not to)

When to Validate Your Kids Feelings (And When Not to)23 apr11 min

<p>πŸ”— Parenting Wisdom Membership β€” launching May 19th:https://www.efratamira.com/community1πŸ”— Full interview with Yechiel Harari: https://youtu.be/m92MWmACDBs?si=EykX6fUiYgfI5c7iAs parents, we&#39;ve moved away from the old model β€” power, control, shame β€” and toward something more empathetic. We validate our children&#39;s feelings, hold space, and try to make them feel seen. And that shift matters. But many of us have ended up with a lot of empathy and not a lot of direction. We&#39;ve traded control for acceptance β€” and somewhere in between, we lost our authority.This video is about finding the middle ground. Parenting with authority not control. Seeing your child fully β€” and leading them at the same time.Drawing on the foundations of Jewish psychology, as explained by Yechiel Harari in his book Breaking the Boundaries of Personality, I explore a concept that completely changed how I see my role as a parent: the difference between wanted and unwanted emotions. Not good or bad emotions β€” but emotions that move your child toward connection and growth, and emotions that pull them inward and block who they truly are.This one idea β€” once you really get it β€” shifts you from validator to director. And that shift is what spiritual parenting actually looks like in practice.In this episode I walk through two real scenarios β€” a child losing a board game and sibling jealousy β€” and show exactly how the therapeutic approach and the Jewish wisdom approach handle each one differently.If you&#39;ve ever wondered how to respond to your child&#39;s emotional outbursts without shaming them or losing your authority β€” this is the episode for you.</p>