Episode 6: Frustration and Envy - The Apparent Luxury of Collapse

<p>In this episode, <a href="https://andrewgeeves.com" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">Andrew</a> encounters a patient whose stated objective is to own her own competence and self assuredness and to be more like him. <a href="https://andrewgeeves.com" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">Andrew</a> anticipates encountering a people pleaser and is surprised when he encounters a lack of it. The patient stonewalls him in particular moments  She resists his attempts to move closer by masking her anger and collapsing into tears and shutting him down. </p><p><br></p><p>In response, <a href="https://andrewgeeves.com">Andrew⁠</a> consciously carries her denied anger but denies his own unconscious envy of her freedom to collapse. This leads him to subtly undercut her anger while consciously intending to invite it.  </p><p><br></p><p>In this interplay of the patient’s and therapist’s joint unconscious denials, affect heightens and thought decreases. Through supervision, a better balance between feeling and thought is achieved and <a href="https://andrewgeeves.com">Andrew⁠⁠</a> moves forward taking ownership of his own envy in the gender wars. </p>