Schemas: Why You're Like This

Ever wondered why you keep ending up in the same fight, dating the same person in a different body, or working yourself into the ground for people who don't notice? There's a name for it: schemas, and Caroline has been down a rabbit hole on this.

Schemas are the deep emotional patterns that got wired in when you were small and haven't updated since. Abandonment, defectiveness, self-sacrifice, unrelenting standards, mistrust — you'll probably recognise yourself in at least two of these. We walk you through the most common ones, the three ways people cope with them (spoiler: none of them are working), and what actually shifts them — because insight alone is not going to do it.

Schema Quiz   https://www.attachmentproject.com/early-maladaptive-schemas/ Also in this one: why making friends as an adult is a whole thing, a Netflix rec that will hook you in one episode, and a genuinely unhinged tangent about UFOs and alien abductions. As you do.

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