S3 EP3: Why People Get Uncomfortable When Couples Do Things Differently | Yalla Habibi Podcast

<p>We ask whether couples really need to agree on everything, and what happens when the way you live, socialise and set boundaries doesn’t fit what everyone else expects. Drawing on our own experience of going against five social norms, we share practical lessons on supporting each other, dealing with FOMO, recognising each other’s triggers and standing firm when people test our boundaries. We also explore why challenging the status quo can make people uncomfortable, and whether making a relationship work is less about agreeing on everything and more about building a life that works for the two people actually living it.</p><p><br></p><p>In “Scott’s WTF of the Week” we uncover the bizarre phenomenon of “pluralistic ignorance” and why we sometimes do things simply because we think everyone else wants to, while “Shelby’s Good Vibes Only” reveals a surprisingly reassuring reason you might be more comfortable saying no than you think.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Chapters</strong></p><p>(05:23) – How We Challenge 5 Social Norms as a Couple</p><p>(19:38) – What Can Other Couples Take From This Series?</p><p>(25:06) – Would We Do It Again? </p><p>(25:51) – Scott’s WTF of the Week: Are We All Just Pretending “Pluralistic Ignorance”</p><p>(31:45) – Shelby’s Good Vibes Only: Why Saying No Just Got Easier</p><p><strong>Recommended Episodes</strong></p><p>Look for titles starting with S1 or S2 to find other series across all podcast platforms. </p><p><br></p><p><strong>📺 Series 2: Finding The One When You&#39;re Not Everyone&#39;s Type</strong></p><p><strong>🎧 </strong><a href="https://open.spotify.com/episode/7nmdZ2qDVC0rLfoJYQXcNb?si=aaaa717750c44cb7">⁠⁠<strong>EP1</strong>⁠⁠</a></p><p><strong>🎧</strong><a href="https://open.spotify.com/episode/18V6qNHMBbSxjnT6dEv2gq?si=09073f6feedb479f">⁠⁠<strong> EP2</strong>⁠⁠</a><strong></strong></p><p><strong>🎧 </strong><a href="https://open.spotify.com/episode/2hF7FTyE9ENPqv77ienSJk?si=92e5883b7ff043e3">⁠⁠<strong>EP3</strong>⁠⁠</a><strong></strong></p><p><strong>🎧 </strong><a href="https://open.spotify.com/episode/27jNUrC108jE7JTCpgJ96U?si=WltJ9q4zRDeIgIvXqjQEtg">⁠⁠<strong>EP4</strong>⁠⁠</a><strong></strong></p><p><br></p><p><strong>📺 Series 1: Travelling as a Couple: Dream vs Reality</strong></p><p><strong>🎧</strong>⁠⁠<strong> </strong><a href="https://open.spotify.com/episode/2KFhybsNvFcGbnD5w9GqcY?si=7cZmUo6ASsK-Wyu9m2kQvQ">⁠⁠<strong>EP1</strong>⁠⁠</a></p><p><strong>🎧</strong>⁠<strong> </strong><a href="https://open.spotify.com/episode/76fHhcxUt2Bc9sroE7uEIr?si=j8FEgzutTb-0fTuMBOoLiw">⁠⁠<strong>EP2</strong>⁠⁠</a>⁠</p><p><strong>🎧 </strong>⁠<a href="https://open.spotify.com/episode/1DmEyhOtdwisnAzaxp0aNy?si=devTCtLrSjqgUSrb-_qbDA">⁠⁠<strong>EP3</strong>⁠⁠</a>⁠</p><p><strong>🎧 </strong>⁠<a href="https://open.spotify.com/episode/3xAQ9HSH14UiM6VCUmWdDM?si=FQCzxPF7QgCmIYN_vMzwoA">⁠⁠<strong>EP4</strong>⁠⁠</a></p><p>⁠</p><p><strong>Stories Shared</strong></p><p>Scott&#39;s WTF of the Week: 🤯 <a href="https://www.nature.com/articles/s41562-025-02196-4" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">Are We All Just Pretending “Pluralistic Ignorance”</a></p><p>🔗<a href="https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-026-49756-w" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">Additional Reference</a></p><p><br></p><p>Shelby’s Good Vibes Only: 🚫 <a href="https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2023/12/say-no-invitation" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">Why Saying No Just Got Easier</a></p><p>🔗<a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36201840/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">⁠Additional Reference⁠</a></p><p>---------------------------------------------------------------</p><p><strong>Subscribe</strong></p><p>If you have ever enjoyed any of these episodes, could we ask you to please consider any or all of these: Subscribe, Follow, Like, Share and leave a short Review? It takes less than a minute and makes a huge difference in helping to spread the word about the show and also to convince some hard-t