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← Yes, please...11 dec 2025 · 34 min

114: Q&A - arousal drop after Clit Os, disgust when touching yourself, and getting back into intimacy after 10 months

114: Q&A - arousal drop after Clit Os, disgust when touching yourself, and getting back into intimacy after 10 months11 dec 202534 min

In this episode, I answer three powerful questions from my community about orgasms, disgust in self-touch, and how to find your way back to sex after a long dry spell in a relationship. We explore the refractory period after clitoral orgasm, how to “edge” your pleasure to expand into vaginal orgasms, what’s really behind feeling icky or nauseous when you touch your body, and how to reconnect intimately with your partner when sex has felt clunky or disappointing.

In this episode:

Why pleasure is a choice and how attention grows desire

The refractory period after clitoral orgasm and what to do about it

Using edging to expand pleasure and support vaginal orgasms

Disgust and nausea during self-touch as a protective, learned response

Somatic and emotional tools for healing shame and body aversion

Rebuilding sexual connection with your partner after months without intimacy

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