114: The Gap Between Sobriety and Relational Recovery - with Tryan Stutes

<p>Why can someone be years into sobriety and still feel disconnected from their partner? </p><p>Choose Recovery Services coach <a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/team-bios/#TryanStutes"><u>Tryan Stutes</u></a> joins Luke to unpack &quot;the gap&quot; — the invisible wall of pride, fear, and old defenses that keeps couples stuck long after the acting-out stops. It&#39;s a raw, honest look at what real accountability requires beyond just staying sober.</p><p><strong>In this episode, you&#39;ll learn:</strong></p><ul><li><p>What &quot;the gap&quot; really is</p></li><li><p>Why sobriety does not always equal empathy</p></li><li><p>Accountability vs. explaining yourself</p></li></ul><p><strong>Beyond the Facade is produced in partnership with </strong><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/"><strong>Choose Recovery Services</strong></a><strong> and </strong><a href="https://blueprint-institute.com/"><strong>Blueprint Institute</strong></a><strong>.</strong></p><ul><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/"><strong>Choose Recovery Services</strong></a><strong> </strong>helps individuals and couples heal from betrayal trauma, addiction, and broken relationships so they can find freedom, wholeness, and lasting change.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://blueprint-institute.com/"><strong>Blueprint Institute</strong></a> is a residential program for men working to heal from compulsive behavior. It provides an immersive environment built around structure, accountability, emotional growth, and behavioral change.</p></li></ul><p>We want to hear from you! <a href="https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdTeli8XXgWJfhxuZDM-8v-I18vo_3yQWBcP1r-LxRysrgC9A/viewform?usp=dialog"><u>Fill out this short survey</u></a> to let us know what you like, what you don’t, and what you want more of. </p><p><strong>Register Now!</strong></p><ul><li><p><strong>***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***</strong></p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/awakening-the-man-within/"><strong>Awakening the Man Within</strong></a> - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same. Nov 8-11, 2026 in Spanish Fork, UT.</p></li><