Why Can't I Be Me When I'm With You?

People don't walk into a therapist's office and say they're having a differentiation problem. They say they feel like a different person around their family, or that they have a whole life their parents know nothing about. Whitney walks through what differentiation actually is, and the four very different situations people are in when they can't be themselves around family.

In this episode, you'll learn:

- What differentiation means in Bowen family systems, and the three ways it commonly goes wrong

- The difference between a family that disagrees with you and one that targets who you are

- Why going no contact doesn't automatically differentiate you from your family

Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.

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