33 | I Told Him If I Had Postnatal Depression, It Was His Fault | Lory | Preeclampsia, Paternal Postnatal Depression, Adult ADHD & Couples Therapy

<p>Lory had a Taylor Swift playlist for labour. A birth version, and a separate one for a C-section, just in case.</p><p>What she didn&#39;t plan for was her blood pressure spiking to 190, an emergency caesarean, and 24 hours in and out of consciousness while her newborn son went to NICU without her.</p><p>Lory is a mum of one, and she thought the hardest part would end there. It didn&#39;t. Months later, she was diagnosed with postnatal depression, after telling herself for weeks that she was &quot;so good at masking&quot; how she felt that even she didn&#39;t notice how bad it had gotten. Then, just as she started to recover, she learned her husband John had been diagnosed too, after a moment that broke her heart: their baby smiled at him, and he couldn&#39;t smile back.</p><p>In this episode, Lory shares what preeclampsia actually looked like from the inside, how a couple can end up fighting over who&#39;s &quot;doing it harder&quot; when they&#39;re both drowning, and how couples therapy became the thing that held their family together when neither of them could.</p><p>This episode explores:</p><ul><li>Preeclampsia and emergency caesarean birth</li><li>Postnatal depression and antidepressant medication</li><li>Paternal postnatal depression</li><li>Adult ADHD diagnosis</li><li>Masking mental health struggles, even from yourself</li><li>Resentment and disconnect in a relationship after baby</li><li>Couples therapy and relationship repair</li><li>Returning to work after maternity leave</li><li>IVF and fertility treatment</li></ul><p>If you&#39;ve ever felt like you had to hold everything together while the person next to you was falling apart too, or you&#39;ve masked how you&#39;re really doing so well that even you stopped noticing, this conversation is for you.</p><p>Follow us at <a href="https://www.instagram.com/awakeat3am.podcast/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">Awake at 3am</a> and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sophiassleepschool/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">Sophia&#39;s Sleep Schoo</a>l for more real stories of motherhood, sleep and survival.</p>