I Hear You in My Head: How Passive Absorption Actually Changes You

Here's a confession: people ask me all the time which parenting experts I follow, and the honest answer is none of them.

Not because I'm above it — I'm an enormous fan girl. It's just that what I'm immersed in right now is personal growth, not parenting. I've had periods, the way Picasso had periods. My NPR period, when I drove toddlers around Denver quoting things I'd heard on the radio. My Eckhart Tolle period. My internal family systems period. Right now I'm deep in a Ram Dass period, and I promise you it's coloring everything about how I see the world.

That's what this episode is about: passive absorption. The learning that happens sideways, when you're not trying, when nobody's confronting you, when you're just folding laundry with a podcast on.

It's also the thing I think people miss when they unsubscribe from my emails — and the reason my clients start saying, around month three, "I hear you in my head."

In this episode:

Why I don't follow parenting experts, and why that's not a criticism of them

The advice a coach gave me years ago about picking one or two sources and going all in

What actually happens in your nervous system when you're in the hot seat being coached — and why your ego braces for it

Why the same information lands deeper when you're not the one being asked to change

The English-school trick my friend in Spain gives every parent (it works for a lot more than language)

Why group coaching creates a layer of absorption that private work structurally cannot

The most powerful passive absorption any of us ever experienced — and the one you're building for your kids right now, whether you meant to or not