Feeling Lost in Homeschooling? Here’s How to Find Yourself Again

If you’ve been feeling lost in homeschooling lately, you’re not alone. One mom I coach is surrounded by people — a husband, kids, a faith community — and still feels profoundly alone. Not mountain-cabin alone, like she’s a hermit somewhere remote. Rather, the alone of being the most present person in every room and somehow the least seen.

A Homeschool Mom’s Story of Feeling Lost

That’s Donelle. She’s analytical, she journals, she notices things many people don’t — and none of it felt safe to share publicly, not even with the people closest to her. On her intake form, before we’d even spoken, she wrote:

“I find I’m too often alone in my mind. I need someone who can relate with me.” surrounded by people — a husband, kids, a faith community — and still feels profoundly alone. Not mountain-cabin alone like she was a hermit on the mountain. Rather, the alone experience of being the most present person in every room and somehow the least seen.

That’s Donelle. She’s analytical, she journals, she notices things many people don’t — and none of it felt safe to share publicly, not even with the people closest to her. On her intake form, before we’d even spoken, she wrote:

“I find I’m too often alone in my mind. I need someone who can relate with me.”

In this episode, I walk through the five ways losing yourself as a homeschool mom actually shows up and the eight words Donelle wrote to herself the evening things began to shift for her. I also share where I’ve seen this same pattern in my own life, and in another mom’s story about the moment she stopped rescuing her almost-grown sons from their responsibilities.

“I want to be at peace to be myself. Not free to be myself. At peace to be myself.”

If you’ve ever felt like you’re holding everyone else together and nobody’s holding you, this episode is for you.

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The intake-form message that told me how alone Donelle really felt