Why “Fixing” Your Partner Can Destroy Connection - with Derek | Ep. 198

<p>What happens when loving someone means letting go of the need to fix them?</p><p><br></p><p>Derek shares his journey of realizing that his attempts to rescue and support his wife were unintentionally creating distance between them. After years of trying to pull her out of pain and show her how wonderful life could be, he discovered that what she needed most wasn't someone to turn on the light—it was someone willing to sit with her in the darkness.</p><p><br></p><p>Together, Janna and Derek explore the difference between compassion and rescuing, how shame and discomfort can impact intimacy, and why seeing your partner as "broken" can prevent true connection.</p><p></p><p><a href="https://jannadentonhowes.com/libido" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Sign up for Janna's free class</a>, "<span style="color: rgb(12, 12, 12);">The Truth About Women's Libido: </span><em style="color: rgb(17, 17, 18);">Why Everything You've Tried Hasn't Worked and What To Do Instead." </em><span style="color: rgb(17, 17, 18);">Watch the class as a couple or on your own. Classes happen on Sept. 21 and 22. </span></p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Ready to learn as a couple? Registration is open for Janna's coaching program for couples, </span><a href="https://jannadentonhowes.com/doingittogether" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Doing It Together</a><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">. Next round runs Oct./Nov. 2026. Deadline to register is Sept. 29.</span></p><p><br></p><p>Looking for where to start? Get <a href="http://jannadentonhowes.com/freevideos" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Janna's Intro Videos</a> for men and women.</p><p><br></p><p><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Ready to learn on your own? Janna's </span><a href="https://jannadentonhowes.com/wimfoundations" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);">Wanting It More Foundations</a><span style="background-color: rgb(250, 251, 255);"> self-paced course for women is always open for registration.</span></p>