Why Some People Get Under Your Skin (and How to Stop It) with Sam Osborne

<p>You know that person who can walk into a room and irritate you before they've said a word? A two-word text, and you've already written a six-paragraph response in your head. We've all got one.</p><p>So here's my question: What if that person isn't actually the problem? Or at least not the whole problem?</p><p>My guest, Sam Osborne, has spent decades studying exactly that. Connection is easy to talk about when we like each other. The real test is what happens when we don't.</p><p>IN THIS EPISODE</p><ul><li><p>Why Sam's business card has a photo of his injured eye, and what it taught him: the brain fills the gaps</p></li><li><p>The hidden cost of losing your composure (you can't unring that bell)</p></li><li><p>Why you actually want an equal amount of support and challenge in your life</p></li><li><p>The first step of the Demartini Method: name the trigger in three or four specific words. No story, no drama, no labels.</p></li><li><p>How a lawyer used Sam's method before walking into court with the one guy who knows how to push his buttons</p></li><li><p>What appreciation actually means (it's not what you think)</p></li><li><p>My challenge for you: What have you decided is true about the person who gets under your skin?</p></li></ul><p>KEY TAKEAWAYS</p><ul><li><p>Your brain fills in the gaps. You're not always seeing exactly what's in front of you.</p></li><li><p>Get specific. "They're cruel" keeps you triggered. "Tuesday at 4 p.m., they interrupted me" calms you down.</p></li><li><p>You're not erasing the costs. You're finding the benefits that balance them.</p></li><li><p>Sometimes the box that needs flipping is the one we've put somebody else in.</p><p><br /></p></li></ul><p>THE FLIP 50</p><p>50 leaders. Five cities: Seattle, Chicago, New York, Nashville, and Dallas. 10 leaders at each dinner, then 50 days of putting the Flip the Box method into practice. Request a seat or nominate a leader at sharileid.com/flip-50.</p><p><br /></p><p>COMING FEBRUARY 2027</p><p>My fifth book. You'll hear it here first.</p><p><br /></p><p><strong>ABOUT SAM</strong></p><p>Sam Osborne is a speaker, author of about seven books, former high school teacher, and trained facilitator of the Demartini Method, developed by Dr. John Demartini, with whom Sam trains twice a year. He works with attorneys, advisors, executives, and sales teams on conflict, triggers, and composure, and delivers his program The Conflict Advantage as a keynote, breakout, half-day workshop, sales kickoff,