How a Leader’s Ego Can Burn Out Their Team with Ewa Błaszczak

What happens when a leader's ego is running the show without them even realizing it?

In this episode of FRIED. The Burnout Podcast, I'm joined by my longtime friend, leadership expert, and author Ewa Błaszczak to talk about her new book, The Leader and the Ego: The Path to Conscious Leadership. Ewa argues that we don't need to get rid of our egos. We need to become conscious of them, understand what they're trying to protect, and notice when they're making decisions for us.

We talk about the connection between leadership ego and employee burnout, why self-awareness becomes increasingly important as leaders gain power, and how unconscious patterns can show up as competition, scarcity, control, rescuing, victimhood, and plenty of unnecessary workplace drama.

And yes, Ewa gives us a remarkably simple place to start: notice your thoughts and ask who's listening. In other words, metacognition. The practice is simple. Doing it consistently is another story.

In this episode, we cover:

What ego actually means and why Ewa doesn't believe we should try to eliminate itHow unconscious ego can affect leadership, team performance, and burnoutWhy thinking you're self-aware and actually being self-aware aren't necessarily the same thingInternal vs. external self-awarenessHow fear, scarcity, competition, comparison, and control can quietly drive leadership behaviorWhy managing your own ego is part of the responsibility of leadershipHow gaining power can make honest feedback harder to getWhy leaders sometimes create problems by constantly stepping in to solve themHow hyper-independence and other patterns can shape what irritates us about other peopleHow to recognize when your own ego has entered the conversationWhy Ewa's ultimate goal for workplaces is surprisingly simple: less drama

One of my favorite ideas from this conversation is that self-awareness isn't about identifying everything that's wrong with you. It's about becoming aware enough of what's happening internally that you have more choices about what happens next.

As Ewa explains, we aren't trying to destroy the ego. We're trying to notice when it's driving. Because an unconscious ego can spend an enormous amount of energy thinking, protecting, analyzing, preparing, fighting, accumulating, planning, and comparing.

For leaders, that internal work doesn't stay internal. Your behavior affects the people around you. And when no one feels safe enough to tell you that you have metaphorical spinach in your teeth, an outside perspective can become especially valuable.

The goal isn't an ego-free leader. It's a leader who can notice their ego, get curious about what it's doing, and make a more intentional choice.

Quotes

"Make the unconscious conscious, because otherwise your ego will literally kill you, your productivity, your teams, and it will make you waste your life." (5:48 | Ewa Błaszczak)