The self-worth "blind spot" that’s quietly shaping all your friendships, with Dr. Marisa G. Franco

You'd call yourself confident. You have high self-esteem. You show up for your people. So a book about worth? That's for someone else… right? That's exactly what Danielle thought before she cracked open Dr. Marisa G. Franco's new book and realized, ten pages in, that she had no idea how much of her own self-worth work she'd been skipping.

In this episode, Danielle sits down with psychologist and New York Times bestselling author Dr. Marisa G. Franco to talk about her new book Worth, which she calls the prequel to Platonic. They unpack why unworthiness is really an inability to process love, how performing "goodness" in your friendships actually disconnects you from them, what it looks like when two types of high self-esteem show up in the same friend group, and why the goal isn't "I am worthy;” it's something far more radical.

CHAPTERS:

Why unworthiness makes love slip right off you — even when it's right in front of youThe two types of high self-esteem and why one of them makes you a worse friendHow "being good" trains you to abandon yourself in your friendshipsWhy forcing a compliment on a friend who rejects it isn't actually loveThe difference between bending for a friend and feeling personally compromisedWorth isn't "I am worthy" — it's something more radical than that

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ABOUT DR. MARISA G. FRANCO

Dr. Marisa G. Franco is a psychologist, professor at the University of Maryland, and New York Times bestselling author of Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make — and Keep — Friends. Her new book, Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment, explores how our relationship with our own feelings shapes every relationship we have, and why self-esteem is a skill, not a fixed trait.

CONNECT WITH DR. FRANCO:

Book, Worth: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/784327/worth-by-marisa-g-franco-phd/Book, Platonic: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/676695/platonic-by-marisa-g-franco-phd/Website: https://www.drmarisagfranco.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmarisagfranco/

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