When To Get Off the Apps (And When to Go Back On)

Apps are a huge part of modern gay life. We delete them, reinstall them, swear them off, go back on, and keep trying to figure out whether they’re helping us connect or quietly getting in the way.

In this episode, we’re talking about app seasonality: that on-again, off-again relationship many gay men have with the apps, and the skill of knowing when they’re serving you, when they’re draining you, when to use them…and when to lose them.

We’re getting into:

Why apps can be the right choice in one season and the wrong choice in another

How to know when it’s time for a break or hiatus

When getting back on the apps can actually be the healthy choice

The difference between using apps intentionally vs. compulsively

How the apps can reveal your patterns around rejection, desire, sex, dating, and self-worth

Whether you’re on the apps, off the apps, or currently “just checking who’s nearby,” this conversation will help you bring more honesty, agency, and self-trust to the way you use them.

Today's Hosts:

Matt Landsiedel

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