Grief Is Not Karma: Letting Go of Guilt After Loss

Grief has a way of convincing us that loss must mean we did something wrong. That if we had prayed harder, loved better, been more vigilant, or been more faithful, our person would still be here. One of the most common questions I hear from grieving people is some version of: “We didn’t do anything to deserve this. Why did this happen to us?” Behind that question is often something heavier than grief: guilt, self-blame, and the belief that we should have been able to prevent the loss. But gri...