Being Good Doesn’t Erase Impact

Good parents can still hurt their kids.

That sentence makes people defensive because it touches the place where we want our goodness to protect us from impact.

But being good does not mean every moment was safe.

Loving your child does not mean they felt heard.

Doing your best does not mean nothing hurt.

In this episode, Chris Workman talks about the part of parent accountability nobody wants to sit with: what happens when an adult child says, “That hurt me,” and the parent hears, “I’m bad.”

This is not parent-bashing.

This is not saying adult children are always right.

This is not telling parents to take abuse.

This is about impact.

The impact of defensiveness.

The impact of “I don’t remember it that way.”