Control Issues? How To Know If You're The Problem | Love | E555

We can all spot controlling people seeking influence over us. But what about our blind spots? 

What happens when other people are feeling controlled by us and we don't even realize what we're doing?

Turns out what many of us call “helping” can feel controlling to our partners.

This is not anything to feel bad about or ashamed of. It's just reality. Control issues rarely feel controlling when we’re doing it. They feel like being right. Keeping things on track. Getting your partner to understand. Making sure nothing goes wrong.

In this episode, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby sits down with Seth Bender, M.A., LMFT, licensed marriage and family therapist and relationship coach at Growing Self, to expose what control issues actually look like — including the ones you may not recognize in yourself.

You’ll learn:

Why control itself isn’t the problem

The hidden reason you need things to go your way

How to recognize your personal “rattlesnake rattles” before you react

When reassurance quietly becomes control

Why trying to control your partner backfires

How to stop managing them and start managing yourself