#16: MBT 1 on 1 Therapy > Between who you are and who you are becoming

<p>🎙️ Special Episode – “Between Who You Were and Who You Are Becoming”</p><p><br /></p><p>Welcome to this special episode of the MBT podcast.</p><p>In this episode, you are given another unique insight into a one-on-one therapy session — a space where thoughts, emotions, and patterns become visible as they unfold in everyday life.</p><p><br /></p><p>What happens in this session goes a step deeper. Not only do tension and patterns emerge, but also a deeper question: who am I, now that I am changing?</p><p><br /></p><p>Today, we listen to a conversation where old certainties begin to shift. Where questions arise about work, relationships, and identity. And where it becomes clear that change does not only happen within you — but also affects the world around you.</p><p><br /></p><p>⸻</p><p><br /></p><p>🧠 What this episode explores</p><p><br /></p><p>Inner unrest and self-doubt</p><p><br /></p><p>Sometimes unrest doesn’t come from one single event,</p><p>but from everything happening at once.</p><p><br /></p><p>Work, relationships, expectations, choices.</p><p><br /></p><p>And suddenly you notice:</p><p>you no longer automatically know what you want.</p><p><br /></p><p>⸻</p><p><br /></p><p>The search for identity</p><p><br /></p><p>When old patterns start to loosen,</p><p>space is created — but also confusion.</p><p><br /></p><p>Because if you no longer respond the way you always did,</p><p>who are you now?</p><p><br /></p><p>This episode shows what that search feels like:</p><p>uncertain, vulnerable, but also honest and necessary.</p><p><br /></p><p>⸻</p><p><br /></p><p>The balance between old and new</p><p><br /></p><p>A powerful image in this session is that of a balance —</p><p><br /></p><p>On one side:</p><p>old patterns, safety, adapting.</p><p><br /></p><p>On the other:</p><p>new choices, self-care, space for yourself.</p><p><br /></p><p>And in between:</p><p>doubt, tension, and the search for balance.</p><p><br /></p><p>⸻</p><p><br /></p><p>Relationships that shift</p><p><br /></p><p>When you change,</p><p>the dynamics with others begin to shift as well.</p><p><br /></p><p>Sometimes there is understanding.</p><p>Sometimes confusion.</p><p>Sometimes resistance.</p><p><br /></p><p>And in those moments, it becomes clear:</p><p>not everyone grows at the same pace.</p><p><br /></p><p>⸻</p><p><br /></p><p>The feeling of not being seen</p><p><br /></p><p>In this session, a familiar and deeper feeling emerges:</p><p><br /></p><p>I am not truly seen for who I am.</p><p><br /></p><p>When responses from others don’t align,</p><p>it can touch something much deeper —</p><p>something that has been there for a long time.</p><p><br /></p><p>⸻</p><p><br /></p><p>Setting boundaries and creating space</p><p><br /></p><p>Slowly, something new begins to develop.</p><p><br /></p><p>Not by trying harder,</p><p>but by doing less of what doesn’t feel right.</p><p><br /></p><p>A boundary that holds.</p><p>A feeling that is allowed to exist.</p><p>A choice to stop moving against yourself.</p><p><br /></p><p>⸻</p><p><br /></p><p>A different way of relating to emotions</p><p><br /></p><p>What makes this episode powerful</p><p>is the shift in how emotions are approached.</p><p><br /></p><p>They are no longer pushed away,</p><p>but explored.</p><p><br /></p><p>Not immediately solved,</p><p>but first felt, understood, and allowed.</p><p><br /></p><p>This is mentalizing in practice.</p><p><br /></p><p>⸻</p><p><br /></p><p>🌟 The common thread</p><p><br /></p><p>The central theme of this episode</p><p>is the transition from living through patterns</p><p>to living from within yourself.</p><p><br /></p><p>This process is not linear.</p><p>It is uncertain, uncomfortable, and constantly shifting.</p><p><br /></p><p>But within that movement,</p><p>growth begins to take shape.</p><p><br /></p><p>Mentalizing helps you pause</p><p>instead of reacting immediately —</p><p>to reflect on what is happening</p><p>within yourself and in others.</p><p><br /></p><p>And