Your Queer Kid's Breakup Isn't Like Yours: What Parents Need to Know About Dating, Abuse, and Support

Do you know how to actually help your queer kid through a breakup, or are you using advice built for straight relationships?

Both of Heather's daughters went through breakups within a month of each other this year, and it revealed just how underprepared she was to support them the way she wanted to. This episode debunks the most common and most dangerous stereotypes about queer relationships, walks through documented research on same-sex relationship stressors and abuse, and gives you language to open the door with your kid without prying.

In this episode you'll learn how to:

Recognize the couple-level stressors unique to same-sex relationships that straight couples never have to navigateUnderstand why queer kids may be less likely to tell you if something is wrong, and how to build the kind of trust that changes thatKnow where to point your kid for LGBTQ-competent support if a relationship turns unsafe

Press play to learn how to show up for your kid's relationships, and their heartbreak, with the facts and presence they actually need.

This episode discusses sexual assault and intimate partner violence. If this is a sensitive topic for you personally, The Trevor Project is available for LGBTQ young people at 1-866-488-7386 or by texting START to 678-678.

Here are the other resources mentioned in this episode:

The Network/La Red — 24/7 hotline specifically for LGBTQIA+ survivors of relationship abuse, 800-832-1901FORGE — self-help guides specifically for transgender and nonbinary survivors of interpersonal and sexual violenceNCAVP (National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs) — the largest LGBTQ-specific anti-violence coalition in the country, with local member programs you can search by regionThe National Domestic Violence Hotline (thehotline.org, 1-800-799-7233) — not LGBTQ-exclusive, but explicitly trained on LGBTQ-specific abuse dynamics, which is important since it's the most recognizable number and some kids will already know it.

Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here!

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