Why Is Your Spouse Not Your Priority?

Dr. Rob and Tami answer questions about co-regulating, couples healing, betraying partners who continue to minimize and resources to help betrayed partners move forward. They also address maladaptive behaviors and coping mechanisms, the power of curiosity in diffusing defensiveness, and the importance of honoring the grief and anger that comes with betrayal.

TAKEAWAYS:

[:50] How can I tell if my partner is becoming regulated again?

[6:27] Physical signs that your partner is getting upset.

[9:20] What is defined as a crisis, and when do you talk about it?

[18:20] What is the practical difference between addiction and problematic porn?

[21:45] Why is your spouse not your priority?

[27:43] The power of curiosity in diffusing defensiveness.

[31:30] Three follow-up questions about recovery resources.

[33:10] Is there any hope for a future that is not dominated by betrayal?

[38:10] Honoring the grief and anger that comes with betrayal.

[45:46] How can I get past the egregious images of his betrayal?