What to do if You’re Scared of Freestyling

<p>Freestyling in pole dance can feel frightening and physically stressful, often driven by fear of failure and harsh self-criticism. This episode offers some practical strategies to cope with that. Drawing on sports psychology, we’ll talk about research (Ceccarelli et al., 2019) showing self-compassion predicts better stress recovery and fewer maladaptive thoughts after recalled sports failure, and use Neff’s (2003) framework of self-compassion: mindfulness (noticing thoughts without over-identifying), common humanity (remembering others struggle too), and self-kindness (treating yourself as you would a friend). We’ll also go through some specific strategies that you can use in the moment to help cultivate more self-compassion.</p><p><br /></p><p>Citations: </p><ul><li><p>Bluth, K., Gaylord, S. A., Campo, R. A., Mullarkey, M. C., and Hobbs, L. 2016. Making friends with yourself: a mixed methods pilot study of a mindful self-compassion program for adolescents. <em>Mindfulness.</em> 7:479–92. doi: 10.1007/s12671-015-0476-6 </p></li><li><p>Ceccarelli, L. A., Giuliano, R. J., Glazebrook, C. M., &amp; Strachan, S. M. (2019). Self-compassion and psycho-physiological recovery from recalled sport failure. <em>Frontiers in psychology</em>, <em>10</em>, 1564. </p></li><li><p>Neff, K. (2003). Self-compassion: An alternative conceptualization of a healthy attitude toward oneself. <em>Self and identity</em>, <em>2</em>(2), 85-101.</p></li></ul><p><br /></p><p>Chapters:</p><p>00:00 Freestyle Fear Is Real</p><p>00:57 Coach Disclaimer And Shoutouts</p><p>01:48 Why We Fear Failure</p><p>04:13 Research On Self Compassion</p><p>06:19 What is Self Compassion?</p><p>07:25 Mindfulness And Meditation</p><p>10:55 Common Humanity And Community</p><p>13:06 Self Kindness In Practice</p><p>14:51 Tools To Calm And Reset</p><p>17:53 Final Encouragement And Wrap Up </p><p><br /></p>