Embracing Change and Authenticity After Divorce with Paige Lavelle

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In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Paige Lavelle about letting go of the “picture-perfect life” to pursue true self-discovery and authenticity. Paige, who now lives in Rochester, New York, opens up about leaving behind a carefully curated adult existence to confront her dissatisfaction and embark on a journey of rebuilding. She shares candidly about cultural and family expectations, breaking away from perfectionism, and what it takes to publicly own our most difficult transformations.

About Paige Lavelle:

Paige Lavell is the author of Invisibly Unwell and host of the Invisibly Unwell podcast. She is also a fintech leader with over 18 years of experience working for companies including Etsy, Meta, Block, and PayPal. Through Invisibly Unwell, Paige explores chronic illness beyond wellness culture and the quiet suffering masked by achievement, perfectionism, and the pressure to keep it all together.

Main Topics Covered:

Why the “picture-perfect life” doesn’t guarantee happiness—and how societal, family, and cultural conditioning shape our adult choicesThe hidden misery behind checking all the right boxes: graduate degree, career, marriage, and home ownershipSigns and symptoms of internal discomfort: boredom, lack of fulfillment, and wishing for “external” reasons to make big life changesNavigating pushback, judgment, and projections from friends and family after making unconventional choices, especially divorceThe role of therapy and self-reflection in identifying true needs versus surface-level fixes (diet, wellness, decor)The non-linear, often uncomfortable process of self-discovery: trying on new identities, moving, and re-evaluating relationshipsBuilding a new life on your own terms: cultivating authentic friendships, trying new things, and facing loneliness and doubtShifting from private struggle to public sharing: why Paige writes and podcasts about invisible health challenges and difficult transitions

Quote from the Episode:

“What I used to think was my own little special mixture of issues was not so special. Obviously we all have unique stories and unique circumstances, but there was definitely this underlying theme of women I met who were just going through this period or had gotten past this period of, like, is this really what I want?” —Paige Lavelle

Timestamps:

[00:00:19] Welcome and greetings from Rochester, NY; Paige on appreciating family, convenience, and this life chapter

[00:03:10] Defining “picture-perfect”: owning a home, marriage, career, but feeling unfulfilled

[00:05:18] Sources of the ideal: family, being “eldest daughter,” and cultural pressure toward conventional success