How To Unlearn Sexual Shame — When Your Whole Culture Taught It To You

I sat across from a woman raised in a culture where sex was never named — and who now teaches thousands how to unlearn that shame.

Karishma Swarup joins me to unpack how culture teaches sexual shame, why South Asian men dating in the West feel labelled creepy, and how men ruin sex by performing instead of connecting.

We get into the orgasm gap, porn scripts, the double life of kids raised between two worlds, and what parents must do differently.

If you carry shame you didn't choose, this conversation will help you hand it back as a man today.

Karishma Swarup (she/her) has completed a Master's in Public Health in the Social and Behavioral Sciences concentration at the Harvard T.H. Chan School of Public Health. She is an internationally experienced sexuality educator and advocate who runs a sex ed Instagram page @talkyounevergot. Karishma was awarded "Influencer of the Year 2021" by UK's NHS SH:24 and Brook. In 2023, she received a grant from UNESCO and RNW Media for Digital Sex Ed creators to create a course for other content creators in sexual health. Simultaneously, Karishma also worked at a social impact consulting firm, Dalberg Advisors to design large-scale strategies for global non-profits and multilateral organisations (like the UNDP).

During her undergraduate at Brown University, she volunteered with Planned Parenthood to teach sex-Ed to high-schoolers. In India, she conducts workshops & online webinars with top educational institutions, student groups and young adults.

Karishma is passionate about destigmatizing sexual health, facilitating health communication, and understanding how public health systems can better serve sexual health needs.

Key Topics:

⭐ Sex Education, Sexual Shame & Breaking Cultural Taboos

⭐ South Asian Culture, Family Expectations & Dating Restrictions

⭐ Patriarchy, Gender Roles & Redefining Masculinity

⭐ Consent, Rejection & Why Persistence Is Mistaken for Romance