228. The Surprising Problem With Trying to Be Secure: Attachment, Parts Work & Emotional Honesty with Dr. Marisa G. Franco

What happens when trying to be more secure (on the surface) backfires?

This week, Dr. Alison talks with Dr. Marisa Franco, about her new book, Worth. They explore a different way to think about anxious and avoidant attachment, the surprising science of how old memories continue to shape our present relationships, and why healing doesn’t require making someone else the villain.

They also talk about grief, empathy, and a powerful experience Marisa had in therapy that changed how she understood the parts of herself she had spent years trying to hide.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

*A different way to understand anxious and avoidant attachment

*Why seemingly small moments can trigger surprisingly big reactions

*The fascinating science of memory reconsolidation

*What grief has to do with genuine empathy and closeness

*The surprising overlap between attachment science, parts work, and spiritual healing

About Dr. Marisa G. Franco:

Dr. Marisa G. Franco is a psychologist, professor, and New York Times bestselling author of Platonic. Her new book is Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment.

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