201. Why You Can’t Stop Comparing Yourself to Your Partner’s Ex (OCD)

Can’t stop thinking about your partner’s ex? You might be caught in the OCD cycle of retroactive jealousy.

In this episode of The OCD Whisperer Podcast, Kristina Orlova speaks with Danielle Jhiani of My OCD Coach, an anxiety and OCD recovery coach with lived experience of OCD. Together, they explore retroactive jealousy, relationship OCD, intrusive thoughts, compulsive reassurance seeking, and the exhausting search for certainty about a partner’s past.

Danielle opens up about:

• Her own experience with OCD across multiple different themes and how that led her to become an OCD recovery coach

• Why the brain can become obsessed with a partner’s past relationships, exes, sexual experiences, appearance, and history

• The hidden compulsions that can keep retroactive jealousy and relationship OCD going

• How learning to recognize and stop compulsions became an important part of her own recovery

Whether you’re struggling with retroactive jealousy, relationship OCD, intrusive thoughts about your partner’s past, reassurance seeking, or obsessive comparison, this episode offers practical insight into recognizing the cycle, responding differently to uncertainty, and building a healthier relationship with your thoughts.

📲 About Danielle Jhiani (guest):

• OCD and anxiety recovery coach

• Webpage: https://www.myocdcoach.com/

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/my_ocd_coach/