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SOCIAL HEALTH: How Do You Actually Find Your People?

SOCIAL HEALTH: How Do You Actually Find Your People?15. Sept.37 Min.

“I just can’t find my people.”

We heard some version of that over and over from you. Maybe you’ve moved. Maybe your closest friends live across the country. Maybe you have plenty of people around you, but still don’t have the kind of deep, vulnerable friendships you’re craving.

So in Episode 3 of our series on social health, Liz Bohannon and I get very specific about how you actually find your people and what might be holding you back.

Liz argues that if we want richer friendships, we have to get a little more “chalant.” We have to name what we're looking for, be willing to initiate, and get comfortable with the possibility of rejection. She shares how she intentionally built her own close circle and why it took about three years to find the right people.

We also tackle your questions about making friends when you're constantly moving, how to turn casual friendships into deeper ones, and whether everyone really needs to be a “best friend.”

And Liz has a pretty radical—and liberating—idea: you don't have to wait for your village to appear. You can create it.

Let’s Talk About It. 

Listen in to learn more :

0:00:00 Relational Fortune Favors the Bold

0:01:05 Social Health as a Longevity Superpower

0:03:30 Three Ingredients of Deep Friendship

0:06:45 Naming Your Longings Up Front