Be. Do. Have. Are You Wanting It or Are You Becoming It?

Be, Do, Have: Are You Wanting It, or Are You Becoming Her?

"I want to own my own business" and "I am an entrepreneur" describe the same dream, but they feel completely different in your body, and your brain treats them differently too.

In this episode of The Resurrection Room, Kelli Shaw breaks down the Be, Do, Have principle and shows why so many accomplished women have been building their lives in the reverse order, waiting to have the money, the time, or the clients before they give themselves permission to become the woman who has them.

Kelli walks through what your brain does every time you say "I want," why your self-concept works as a prediction your behavior follows, and what research on identity-based motivation reveals about why some women keep going after a rejection while others decide the dream was never for them.

Then she takes you into Judges 6, where God calls Gideon a mighty warrior while he is hiding in a winepress, and shows how God has always spoken identity first.

In this episode:

Why Have, Do, Be keeps the life you want permanently out in front of you

The difference you can feel in your body between "I want" and "I am"

How your brain's prediction engine and reticular activating system respond to identity statements

Christopher Bryan's research on "voting" versus "being a voter," and Daphna Oyserman's work on identity-based motivation

The porch and the house: the difference between wanting a life and living inside it

The new nurse analogy, and why the identity comes before the evidence