Why Do I Care So Much What Everyone Thinks? Valerie Marston on Learning to Trust Yourself

<p>Valerie Marston is a mental health and mindset coach and a full-time HR professional. She helps women worry less about what other people think, stop letting other people's opinions and moods decide their self-worth, and start trusting their own internal voice. She does this work because she was that woman for most of her life.<br /><br />Val first saw what coaching could do when a colleague offered to coach her while earning her own certification hours. Her own intensive life coach certification became the turning point, and she has been coaching for over seven years since, letting the practice grow at its own pace through years of wondering whether she should become a therapist, go back to school for social work, or become a registered dietitian instead.<br /><br />We talk about living as a people pleaser and perfectionist without realizing it, the signals that you might be living for everyone else's approval, and the iceberg of worry sitting underneath "I'm fine." Val also shares her own story, from scoliosis surgery at 13 to the perfectionism that peaked in college and became a severe eating disorder, and how she found her way to a healthy relationship with food and her body.<br /><br />Val has a free quiz to help you see where you are in your own journey, and a free masterclass on learning to trust yourself.<br /><br />Chapters<br />00:00 Meet Valerie Marston: Mental Health and Mindset Coach<br />02:48 From HR to Coaching: A Lifelong Desire to Help<br />06:29 Coaching on the Side for Seven Years: The Certification That Changed Everything<br />09:36 Therapist, Dietitian, or Coach? Getting Comfortable With Not Knowing<br />11:23 Living as a People Pleaser Without Knowing It<br />13:23 Am I Doing This for Me or for Someone Else?<br />15:43 Signs You're Living for Other People's Approval<br />18:58 You Can't Unsee It: Breadcrumbs, Synchronicity, and Self-Awareness<br />21:04 Where Are You in Your Journey? The Self-Trust Quiz<br />23:31 The People Pleasing Iceberg: What's Under "I'm Fine"<br />25:11 Val's Story: Scoliosis, Perfectionism, and Recovering From an Eating Disorder<br />34:38 What Is Lighting Her Up: An Upcoming Masterclass on Self-Trust<br />37:07 You Don't Have to Do It Alone: Permission to Rest and Put Yourself First<br />39:48 Where to Find Valerie<br /><br />ABOUT VALERIE MARSTON<br />Valerie Marston is a mental health and mindset coach, an ICF-certified Life Coach and National Board Certified Health &amp; Wellness Coach. Through VM Clari