S14 EP13: How to Heal Your Self-Esteem and Feel More Secure with Dr. Marisa Franco

<p>Are you low on self-esteem lately? </p><p>We are so excited to have Dr. Marisa Franco back on the podcast! In today’s episode of The Thick Thighs Save Lives Podcast, we get into why success, love, compliments, and connection can actually feel threatening when you struggle with self-worth; why positive affirmations sometimes make you feel <em>worse</em>; and how old experiences can continue influencing your reactions even when you don’t consciously remember them.</p><p>Marisa is a psychologist, international speaker, New York Times bestselling author of <em>Platonic</em>, and author of the new book <em>Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment</em>.</p><p>Marisa also walks us through her <strong>Feel, Heal, Do</strong> practice for navigating insecurity in real time and explains why trying not to feel anger, jealousy, rejection, shame, or hurt can actually make those emotions louder.</p><p>Healing isn’t about becoming so “secure” that you never feel insecure again.</p><p>It’s about learning not to abandon yourself when you do.</p><p>This conversation is science-backed, compassionate, practical, and packed with moments that will completely change the way you understand yourself.</p><p><br><strong>Dr. Marisa Franco’s Links: </strong></p><p>Books: <a href="https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/676695/platonic-by-marisa-g-franco-phd/"><u>Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and—Keep Friends</u></a> and <a href="https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/784327/worth-by-marisa-g-franco-phd/"><em>Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment</em></a></p><p>Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/drmarisagfranco/?hl=en"><u>DrMarisaGFranco</u></a></p><p>LinkedIn: <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmarisagfranco/"><u>Dr. Marisa G. Franco</u></a></p><p>Website: <a href="https://drmarisagfranco.com/"><u>www.DrMarisaGFranco.com</u></a></p><p><br>(00:00:54) Welcome back Dr. Marisa Franco and introducing Worth</p><p>(00:05:17) Why trying to “act secure” can actually make us more insecure</p><p>(00:09:50) Self-sabotage: Why success and happiness can feel threatening</p><p>(00:14:17) How to recognize insecurity in the moment and in the past</p><p>(00:17:50) Why positive affirmations don’t always work</p><p>(00:24:10) How memories shape self-worth and how we can change their impact</p><p>(00:29:19) Trauma, implicit memories, and feelings you can’t explain</p><p>(00:35:00) Why women invalidate their own emoti