Holding Space Changes Men

<p>How Did We Get Here? is Mpoomy Ledwaba&#39;s best-selling coming-of-age story. Looking back on her upbringing, major milestones and the challenges she’s faced, Mpoomy takes us on her journey of self-discovery. Order your copy here👉:<a href="https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbmtfbDFBS1BTR0hZQ0ozeG03a3QwZmxGdW1LQXxBQ3Jtc0trRThsMkVaRVNCY1pjWHctNDBMWDNBcGJyZ1FUT0plYXppSF90OFIwb012WW1fWGRGTUs2RnFDTlBRREJuUTd6RFZtbnk5N2pZQ0haS2U0dXpPSUhaRDhyb2c2ZGM0RkxJV21aTURHZ3ZrUE9RYXg4WQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.co.za%2FHow-Did-We-Get-Here%2Fdp%2F1776193865&v=LFqklnIh2vQ">https://www.amazon.co.za/How-Did-We-G...</a></p><p>Sign up for the Wisdom &amp; Wellness Private Membership: <a href="https://sales.wisdomwellness.co.za/si%E2%80%A6">https://sales.wisdomwellness.co.za/si…</a></p><p>…</p><p>In this episode, Mpoomy sits down with Blaque Nubon,husband, father, and host of <em>That Husband Podcast</em>, to unpack fatherhood, forgiveness, faith, and what it means for men to truly lead with self-sacrificial love.</p><p>Together, they explore how we can raise healthier boys, love men more intentionally, and break generational cycles that have left so many men emotionally unsupported.</p><p>This episode is for everyone, whether you’re raising a child, loving a partner, healing from family wounds, mentoring young people, or simply seeking deeper understanding, this conversation creates space for reflection, growth, and healing.</p><p>Because healthier men don’t just change homes, they change communities.</p><p>Timestamps</p><p>4:08 - Opening:The meaning behind the name <em>Blaque Nubon.</em></p><p>4:26 - Ice Breakers:Getting to know Blaque.</p><p>9:26 - Who Was Mlungisi?His upbringing before the platform and the purpose.</p><p>11:44 - Born to Teen Parents:How it shaped his early understanding of love and responsibility.</p><p>14:55 - A Present Father:What home felt like and the powerful role his dad played.</p><p>19:20 - When Dad Disappeared:His father’s absence in his late teens, and the emotional shift that followed.</p><p>22:09 - “Our Dreams Broke Up Our Family.”When ambition disrupts stability.</p><p>24:57 - Trust &amp; The Father Wound:Did a broken earthly relationship affect his view of God?</p><p>28:18 - Early Resistance to Christianity:The negative beliefs he once carried.</p><p>30:08 - His “Plan” to Get to Heaven:Performance vs relationship.</p><p>31:54 - Mpoomy’s Early Faith Foundations:Her reflections as a young Christian.</p><p>32:40 - Saved vs Spirit-Filled:Why being Spirit-filled changes everything.</p><p>37:30 - What Obedience Preserved:What Mpoomy believes she would’ve missed without the Holy Spirit.</p><p>39:10 - Blaque Reflects:His own surrendered moments.</p><p>40:15 - “Lord, If It’s Not From You…”Mpoomy’s prayer about not sustaining what God didn’t give.</p><p>41:10 - The Nightclub Encounter:The moment Blaque light switched on, outside a nightclub.</p><p>47:55 - Loving a Father Who Left:How forgiveness and honour coexist.</p><p>50:26 - The Power of Names:How identity can shape destiny.</p><p>53:15 - “South Africa Needs Present Fathers.”Where his conviction about fatherhood comes from.</p><p>54:07 - Is Fatherhood the Healing?How absent fathers impact society.</p><p>54:50 - Men’s Mental Health:The statistics and why engaged fathers matter.</p><p>58:08 - The Pressure of Masculinity: “Builders. Leaders. Providers.”What happens when reality doesn’t match expectations?</p><p>1:00:43 - Men Crave Security Too.</p><p>1:02:22 - The Enemy Targets Men:From Moses to Jesus, and how it shows up today.</p><p>1:04:15 - Fathers Matter Campaign:The “Dad Couch” initiative and why fathers leave.</p><p>1:06:56 - The Church Gender Gap:Why more women than men fill church seats.</p><p>1:09:47 - Take a Boy Child to Work:Are we mentoring sons intentionally?</p><p>1:10:48 - Redefining Male Presence:What “showing up” really means.</p><p>1:11:20 - The Heart Behind <em>That Husband Podcast</em>:Teaching men how to b