'Humane Eldercare Has Become a Luxury Item’

<p>Nursing home care in the U.S. can run families $10,000 a month, a cost Medicare won’t pay for. When Anna de la Cruz's parents both developed dementia around the same time, her family split into two paths: a Medicaid ‘spend down’ in the U.S. for her mom, and a move to a memory care facility in Mexico for her dad.</p><p><a href="mailto:anna@annadelacruz.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Anna De La Cruz</a> writes a newsletter about caregiving called <a href="https://www.genxandwich.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Gen Xandwich</a>. Laura Silverstein is a senior care manager with <a href="https://silverandsageconsultingnw.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Silver and Sage Consulting NW</a>. Wendy Jane Carrel, a care advocate, runs <a href="https://www.wellnessshepherd.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Wellness Shepherd</a>.&nbsp;</p><p>To find a care manager near you, try searching the <a href="http://aginglifecare.org" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Aging Life Care Association</a>.</p><p>This episode was produced by Zoe Azulay.</p><p>Death, Sex &amp; Money is now produced by Slate! To support us and our colleagues, please sign up for our membership program, <a href="http://slate.com/dsmplus" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Slate Plus</a>! Members get ad-free podcasts, bonus content on lots of Slate shows, and full access to all the articles on Slate.com. Sign up today at <a href="http://slate.com/dsmplus" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">slate.com/dsmplus</a>.</p><p>And if you’re new to the show, welcome. We’re so glad you’re here. Find us and follow us on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/deathsexmoney/?hl=en" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a> and you can find Anna’s newsletter at annasale.substack.com. Our new email address, where you can reach us with voice memos, pep talks, questions, critiques, is deathsexmoney@slate.com.</p><br><p>Need to set up your Slate Plus feed? If you subscribed through Slate.com, check out our <a href="https://slate.com/podcastfaqs#plusbenefits" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">FAQ</a> at slate.com/podcastfaqs for easy instructions. Members subscribed via Apple Podcasts get automatic access—no setup required.</p><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more inform